MARRIAGE LIFE

Like every normal girl,I had my wedding planned in my head like 10 years before the exact day and I really couldn't wait for that day to come, the colours, the romance, the lights, I just wanted it to be perfect. I already had the perfect man and all I needed now was the perfect wedding. what else could possibly go wrong"i thought before mother snapped me out of my thought.

     "Do you like the dress"she asked looking stressed for what seemed like the 100th time, I knew I had stressed her enough because I wasn't the kind of girl that gets easily satisfied by things and I was very indecisive too. It was one trait of mine that got mother angry everytime.

   "Yes,I do"i finally said and I could see the sign of relief in mother and zainab's face. Zainab who was my best friend knew so much about my indecisive nature that I had to plead with her to come for my fitting before she agreed. She had promised to never go any where with me again after the last time we had spent close to five hours in a store looking for the perfect shoe a week ago.

   "How much is the dress"mother asked as I continued being mesmerized by the beaded material and how great the dress looked. It was the perfect wedding dress, the kind they showed in magazines and showcased in fashion week.

   "That will be 700000 naira"the manager said with a smile on her face. Mother immediately exclaimed about how expensive that was and about how casually she had said it. That was a little below 2000 dollars.

   "That is past the budget"zainab said turning to face me"but I can't let go of the dress"i said holding onto it tightly.

   "I really want it,I don't mind if we have to cut down any other thing,mother please"i said with my famous puppy face

   "Your dad's credit card is with me,you will have some explaining  to do to him when we get home"she said giving the card to the sales girl and I immediately hugged her"thanks mum,you are the best"i said.

    I grew up basically getting everything I wanted,from the most expensive dolls in the mall to the most expensive school in the neighbourhood and now i am attending the most expensive college in the country. I am an only child so it was kinda all expected.

   Preparing for a wedding wasn't as easy as i had expected even though i had a lot of people helping around me. The stress was more than i had imagined but sometimes really having money made it easier. I had gotten an event planner who made my work way easier and less stressful.

    After the dress shopping,I also went to the other places because the wedding was in a couple of days and I couldn't wait to spend the rest of my life with the love of my life and I hoped he was as excited as I was because I was way too excited to get married.

     Even though I had only known my husband for like a year,it felt like I had known him forever. My uncle had introduced me to him at the previous eid party we held and immediately I had felt a connection towards him. A lot of people had asked us to wait a little bit more,maybe till I finished college but he was ready and I guess I felt I was too. How hard could getting married possible be. The day I met him was the day I knew he was going to be my husband because he was everything I wanted in a husband and more. He was tall, muscular, the type that looked like an athlete but wasn't really one, he was handsome with his brown eyes that shun like diamonds when he looks at me with those longing eyes of his. He was a perfect match and a perfect gentleman at that but one thing I regret was not finding out everything about him before we got married.

   It was my traditional engagement ceremony the next day, it was a ceremony that came before the main wedding and it could have been some weeks ago but we wanted everything to be done in the same week.this is a ceremony that involves several engagement gifts from the groom's side of the family and so many colourful traditional attire and foods. Some say it's the best part of a wedding ceremony.

   Days went by and I realized it was my nikkah already,I had thought I was ready but has the day I was going to be leaving my father's house came nearer, it all became scary but there was nothing I could do about it now.I remember how I always laughed at people who cried as they left their fathers house on their wedding day and I told myself I wasn't going to be such bride. But as mother adjusted my cloth and placed her hands on me saying a little prayer on the day of my wedding. I really didn't know how the tears spilled and she immediately hugged me tight.i knew she was going to miss me alot and I was sure I was going to miss her even more.

   "Are you sure you are ready"mother asked for what felt like the 10th time with what looked like a mixture of fear and sadness in her eye.she wasn't ready to let me go and I was so sure that if she insisted I might as well just stay because I was having cold feet already.

   "Mother, I am going to be fine"i reassured her with a smile on my face. She held my hands as she looked into my eyes and I could see the tears that were threatening to spill down her eye.

"What about school dear"she asked worried.

   "I am in my final year, it's just marriage how hard can it be"i said smiling. I had it all figured out in my head but little did I know that there was more to marriage than what we read in books or watched in the movies. There was a whole lot more to it.